Tantra: The Fundamental Principles
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by: Robert Johansen
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Tantra philosophy dates back six thousand years ago in India, where it was complete philosophy and way of life. The Western world however gives more emphasis only on the sexual side of Tantra. Unbeknownst to most though, learning the sexual principles and inculcating the practices will have you living your life the Tantric way.
Consciousness about how you live your life is an important Tantric principle. Focus is on being fully aware what you are doing, when you are doing it. But Tantric sex goes beyond that. Tantra is not goal-oriented, and places as much emphasis on how you reach the goal as on the goal itself. People are unaware that much of what they do every day is a product of habit and not of consciousness. Ordinary activities such as eating and playing are effortlessly done. And sad to say, even sex is done only as part of one’s habit.
Unfortunately, modern-day living dictates that a simple orgasm is not given the thought than it deserves. It becomes the sole purpose in every sexual activity we think of. With sex, and with any other activities, people tend to go through it just for the goal, for obtaining it and getting there. Many people fail to realize that satisfaction is not derived from achieving the goal, but in the matter that we reach the goal.
Consciousness of everything that you are doing is what is taught by Tantric philosophy. You could be moving, standing still or even making love. In lovemaking, one does not only focus on the goal of reaching an orgasm, but instead of all other things. This definitely takes the experience to a whole new level. Every little part of the lovemaking should be enjoyed and treasured. Every moment, all sensory pleasures should be focused on.
Gazing into your partner’s eyes while doing lovemaking, is a great way to achieve this consciousness of noticing and appreciating every little thing. This greatly improves the intimacy of Tantric lovemaking. In Tantric literature, this is known as soul-gazing, a very effective method to be right there in that moment with your lover while making love.
Your partner’s trust in these highly vulnerable moments is a skill. But in order to prove trust, the both of you must make yourself vulnerable to each another. Women are good at this, however, it is something that men is more challenging. Men are not permitted to be vulnerable, especially when we talk about sexual prowess. Tantric sex needs for both the woman and the man to let all their defenses down and let each other see that most vulnerable part of one’s self. This in turn promotes the most profound of communication. It is the balance between man and woman, in between power and defenselessness that is part of the reason why Tantric sex is so unlike that of mere physical sex.
About the Author
Robert Johanssen is a Psychologist and has written widely on relationships, communication and sexuality. Visit his Tantra website for more information about Tantric Sex
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